Clearing the Cache

Now that we’ve all made it through January, we can do what we do ever year and say to ourselves, harumph, nothing is going according to plan. As if the change of a single digit on our calendars ushers in some magical wand of control and newness.    And as much as I am all […]

Right Sizing: Making a Nest in 2023

I did a brave thing recently. I got a massage. I know for most people this is not a brave thing, but it is for me. It’s been over ten years, a fact that is directly tied to the tentacles of trauma. Anyone who has experienced sexual assault knows that it’s no small feat to […]

The Fantasy of Preparation & Control

I will begin by saying that I really feel that I was missing the following classes in high school:   Interpersonal Skills: How to avoid assholes and also how to not be an asshole Non-delusional Budgeting: How numbers are numbers Self-regulation: How to not freak out The Dishes: A tale as old as time Wait […]

Aging Out

I’m writing this post at 8:47am from my dining room table, surrounded by post-its, each with to-dos and ideas and MUST DO NOWs scrawled on them. I had planned to get up early this morning before school drop-offs and get a start on the day, but – alas – I am tired. Late night decisions […]

Scary Body Stuff

This blog is late because I have been putting it off. This is not surprising since the topic of this post is about an area of life in which I have been engaged via the fine art of utter denial and complete avoidance.    This dance feels rather useful when I’m in it, that is […]

Lessons in Stretching (also the matrix)

As a young ballet dancer, I remember being extremely envious watching other girls bend and extend, their bones like gooey instruments. My body felt pretty A to B, B to C. I found a way to make it all look fluid but it never felt fluid. And, some of the ways I did that weren’t […]

How Do I Prevent Diastasis Recti?

  Diastasis recti abdominis (DRA), also referred to as Diastasis Recti (DR) is one of the many physiological changes that take place during pregnancy. As the abdomen expands to accommodate the growing baby, the skin, muscles, and connective tissue all stretch as well. This includes the linea alba, or the connective tissue running down the […]

How Much is “Enough” Exercise?

  Is it just us or is anyone else bombarded with articles and posts about exactly how much exercise is enough? Has it ever occurred to you that this holy grail of wisdom doesn’t actually exist? Yes, you have probably heard the general recommendation to get at least 150 minutes of exercise per week, but […]

False Promises: Breastfeeding & Weight Loss

  All new moms grapple with hard postpartum realities like sleep deprivation, hormonal shifts, identity crises, body image, and learning how to be patient with themselves as they heal.   This is made even more difficult with the added pressures to “get your body back” which usually means in this culture, sadly, to lose weight. […]

Invisible Mess

I’ve recently started inexplicably fantasizing about big plans for my backyard. Note: I’m not a gardener. The only plant I have successfully kept alive for longer than a few months is a jalapeño plant, which in Texas is basically The Easiest Thing Ever. I mean, you have to actively work to get them NOT to […]